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Monday, 7 August 2017

Do you want to cut your son's foreskin? See what American moms Do


The ritual of circumcision has long been in human history. The earliest depiction of male circumcision dates back to Egypt around the year 2400.

According to the World Health Organization, about 30% of men worldwide have been circumcised. Most of them (69%) is a Muslim male living in Asia, the Middle East and North Africa. Less than 1% were Jewish males. Another 13% are non-Muslims and non-Jews living in the United States.

According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), 80% of men in the United States underwent circumcision.

This ratio looks high, but in fact, being a parent, it is not easy to make this decision for a young son. Today, Mishu is taking a look at a young American mother, Lee Rose Emery, on this issue. The following is the author's narrative section:

Knowledge is power. As parents who live in the information age, we desperately want to catch all the knowledge that explodes. We are well-informed and super conscientious. We go online to check the data, we read, we consult friends.

But when it comes to new knowledge, we often feel confused and unsure. So far, my husband and I have encountered the most troubling problem of raising children is whether to the son circumcised.

We are not Jews, so religious traditions have no effect on us. From our own understanding, we weigh the pros and cons of all aspects, such as beauty, tradition, health, children's future sexual pleasure and self-esteem. The son is still in my belly, even if the name is not, we will be proactive, start to consider these profound problems.

Soon the son is 5 years old. One night, I was washing him a bubble bath. He suddenly looked down at his body and said: "I hate my foreskin." "I had no idea that my son would suddenly say such a thing, and it was quite astonishing to say the word correctly." Looking at the bubbles in my son's body, I could not help falling into the mist of contemplation.

He pulled the foreskin back and made himself look as if he had been circumcised. Did we make a mistake not to help my son get circumcised early?

On this issue, some families will keep their son and father in line. In my home, because my husband's father is premature, so I did not do circumcision, but my husband did. My husband has never felt anything wrong with his father at this point, and so is our son.

My husband and I live in Los Angeles. We respect our pediatrician Klausner (Kimberly Klausner). She has a neutral attitude towards the problem. She said half of the boys in her Beverly Hills family were circumcised.

She has repeatedly mentioned to us the 1999 statement of the American Academy of Pediatrics. "The available scientific evidence suggests that the removal of the foreskin for newborn babies is medically potentially beneficial, however, and that data is not sufficient to recommend the routine of neonatal circumcision," the statement said. "In addition, not all medical insurance can reimburse for routine circumcision costs."

Therefore, we do not have to give our son the reason for circumcision, whether from the perspective of religion, beauty or medical results. Bubble bath that moment I really do not know, I do not have a "penis jealousy complex", I just have never seen the foreskin of the penis (except for my son's outside).

However, just because they are more familiar with the appearance of the foreskin to cut off the foreskin for the son, it seems unfair to the son. After weighing the views of the parties, my husband kept on talking about our meeting with another pediatrician, Folles, Paul Fleiss. We interviewed him many years ago when we chose a pediatrician.

Folles wrote a book called "About circumcision, the things doctors don't want You to Tell" (What Your Doctor May, About circumcision). He is a well-known American pediatrician who does not encourage circumcision. His writings emphasize the importance of wrapping to sexual pleasure, pointing out that "foreskin is a human organ", which contains "a lot of blood vessels and nerve endings".

Thinking of this, my mind flashed on the depiction of female circumcision in the literature of the course "Women's Studies" at the College of Liberal Arts. It says that in some countries the use of female circumcision is to reduce sexual pleasure for women. Since we will never consider circumcision for girls, why should we cut the foreskin for our son? We chose not to do so.

I was very comfortable with the decision, even in private for myself, until the bubble bath that day.

Back in 2006, the New York Times reported on a study of AIDS in the National Institutes of Health. The study points out that circumcision plays an important role in AIDS prevention practices in Africa. My selfish desire is that the medical profession's view of circumcision should not be changed because my son was two years old and his foreskin was intact.

When my son was 4 years old, I found that he often pulled back his foreskin, one side pulled aside and said to me: "You see, mother." I'm just like Sam. "Sam was his friend, and when he changed clothes, he saw Sam circumcised. I realized that the boys (cousins, kindergarten friends) who looked at each other's body were mostly "different" from what he looked like.

They've all been circumcised, including his father.

I can't help thinking, why are all these boys circumcised? I decided to ask several other moms about how they made their decisions.

Hilary is a journalist who has seen the first year in hospital with a novice doctor in the surgery. She swears that if she has a son later, she will never be circumcised for her son.

A few years later, her Jewish husband said to her, "he wants his son to have a chance to be a Jew." Hilary obeyed her husband. She had an operation on a Jewish Circumcision executive (Mohel) who had circumcised 10,000 boys. Even so, she had to walk out of the house to feel better during the circumcision.

Hilary said that when she saw the 2006 National Institutes of Health Research Report on AIDS, she was happy to remove the foreskin for public health and the benefits.

Another mother, Liza, told me that she regretted having circumcised her son. "Although my husband and I know it's good, it's hard to forgive our decisions," she said. "Her son's surgery failed.

The doctor's use of forceps during the operation was wrong, causing her only 3-month-old child to have to do a urology operation, and then redo the circumcision.

Another friend, Alison, said: "I have always said that the penis is his (my husband's) field." He wants his son to look like him. But personally I'm glad we've circumcised our son. It's hard to teach him to bathe himself. If one more layer of things to wash, it is more difficult for me to imagine. ”

Finally, I once again asked my pediatrician, Klausner, because I knew she had just had a baby recently. She said to me:

"I was circumcised at a very traditional ceremony because of religious beliefs," he said. I felt very uncomfortable, but it was based on faith decisions, not a sensible medical decision. If not for the sake of faith, I will not do it. ”

Back to the Bubble bath: the day my son stopped shouting, I told him that dad and Mom had made the best decisions we could make for his body, because he was too young to know what he was asking for, whether it was good or bad.

I explained: "We don't want someone to cut off some part of your body when you're a little baby." "After that, I was a little worried, thinking that one day in the pool locker room, my son might ask other accidentally circumcised children, why their parents did so."

It's really embarrassing for us to face the problem of cutting the foreskin again and again. But in the process, I have come to the conclusion that there is not a clear answer to many things in parenting and in life. Many important decisions are made by faith, whether it be religious belief or our personal "faith".

As long as we have one of these two faiths, we can at least have a clear conscience, no matter what the mainstream perceptions of society, or what new discoveries have been made in science, because we know that we are making the best decisions for our children.

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